5 ways to grow emotion regulation in your family

When we see our child or teen struggling with big emotions, it can be so difficult to maintain our own regulation – our emotions are often activated and we can react in ways we later wish we hadn’t!  Our own regulation is so important first.

Our child or teen also needs to be able to feel safe to express how they feel, to recognise and connect with the feeling and also to be able to put language to it, in order to learn to regulate themselves.

This month I am sharing more about these 5 ways that you can help to grow emotion regulation in your family.


Hello, I’m Shelley, the founder of Complex Connexions CIC.

I was also a teacher, SEN support and am now a tutor.  What I discovered in parenting my son, who is ADHD/ Autistic, is that when we understand more about our child’s behaviour, then we can respond in a more conscious way to meet their needs.  This helps them to feel safe and to have more nervous system regulation.

Understanding behaviour through this brain/body lens therefore means we can communicate in a way that supports them and also ourselves.  This builds trust and nurtures our relationship.

 What I’ve also discovered along the way, is that we can make a huge difference for our child or teen, but our own regulation is crucial to this.  We have to start with supporting ourselves 🧡


Understand more about what your young person’s behaviour is actually communicating about what they are struggling with


Use conscious communication to respond to what they need, rather than just trying to manage their behaviour


Strengthen your relationship with them and nurture trust and collaboration
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